I had a long night yesterday, consoling a good friend of mine, my friend whom I know for the last 20 years of my life, back when we were in primary school.
I always thought that she has a perfect life; a husband who adores her, 3 cute and lovely children, a nice home, a good career and blessed with good looks and all...I guess some people are very good at hiding things and acting like nothing has happened.
Last night, she called me....crying and sobbing, so I drove to her house...
Then only I know, how she has been suffering for the past few years. How her so called perfect husband was giving her emotional abuse and making her feel miserable practically everyday...and how she has been crying and crying until her whole body hurts...
Her husband has been picking on her and everything she does is wrong. She has been accused of being a wife who does not perform her responsibilities, a bad mother and the lists went on and went...
Last night, all hell broke loose. They had a big fight, so big that they woke up the whole house. Even the kids. My friend's job nature requires her to travel every now and then and this time she will need to go to a destination. And coincedently, the destination that she is going to, she knows someone there, an ex-colleague. So, she sms him and told him about her trip and maybe she can see her then, after such a long time.
Little did she knows, her husband has been constantly checking on her phone, checking her smses, her call logs and other stuff. He was furious when he got to know this and accused her of cheating on him. That's when she lost it and the fight broke...which ended with him storming out of the house...
And why I rushed there, cause she told me she is about to take her own life, she just couldn't take it anymore....and she knew with all the money and assets that she has, her children will be well taken care off.
We cried together the whole night and I stayed to make sure that she would not do anything stupid...And before I left, I called her mother to accompany her...
Then, the what if starts to roll on my mind, what it I did not arrive on time, what if she did what she wanted to do and her kids woke up only to find that their mom whom they adore so much has taken her own life...
And what if this happen to me............................
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Hmmm... please tell your friend if her husband hits her, go and make a police report and seek medical treatment at government hosp. This is for her own good.
Women should have her own saving, if things like this would happen, she then can anytime leave the husband. Yg problem is if woman yg too dependable on the husband.. it would be more difficult to leave the marriage, so they have to suffer and take all the phisycal and mental abuse from the husband.
kak liza...next time u go n visit her pls give her the warmest big hug on behalf of me....pls tell her that she will always have mo prayer and doa....semoga die sentiasa tabah.......baca ya koha bnyk supaya dipinjam kan kekuatan dr Allah swt
Emotional is worst than physical abuse, it can eat your soul bit by bit. No woman should go thru that kind of situation,if she is strong enuff I would say leave the husband. Sad situation that she is in. My heart goes to her.
dot, lil^red and maya - i told her and she is very happy to know there are others who understand what she is going through, she was actually scared that people may perceived her like tak reti jaga rumahtangga and suami...
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