The one about our wedding anniversary

Last Mother's Day was more than a mother's day to me. It was our 12th years wedding anniversary hence this entry may be longer than usual cause I am in the mood to tell you normalies, the history of our relationship.

I knew my better half when I was 16. He worked at the same place as my mom. He was actually my mom's staff. My mom was the one interviewed him and hired him.

Nope, before you asked, it was not love at first sight. I was 16 lah friend. I was busy partying with my friends and having fun(sometimes too much). I met him whenever I dropped by my mom's office. And never crossed my mind to have a relationship with him, and that includes a special relationship.

I have to admit, however, I was the one made the first move( so that proves the gatal theory some people had about me....). Back on 1995, there was this Kent event where you can enter Sunway Lagoon for free - Kent Fresh Freak Out if I'm not mistaken. All of my friends were going with someone and I don't want to be the third passenger. He was the first face I saw after I collected the tickets so I went ahead and asked him. He said yes immediately only to change his mind 2 days later. He told me he need to go back to his hometown. After some digging, then only I knew, he was having the impression I am a high maintenance person and he didn't think he could afford to bring me out. I wonder how he got that impression .....hhhhhhhmmmmmmmmm......must be because of my shoes....

And the relationship bloomed from there. Most of the time, it was long distance relationship. I was still studying at that time. Through those years, we had numerous fights, experience phone bills shooting to at times 4 digits figure and meeting every other months. It was tough but the relationship stayed in tact.

The worst obstacle of this relationship was the objections from my parents. They were not confident he can take care of me, after all, my mom was his boss and knew how much he earned. I had a hard time convincing my parents especially my dad. Being the only daughter made this even harder! You may not believe this, I was even kicked out from the house due to my adamant to be with him. I stayed on my own for nearly a year, juggling between college, part time jobs at the same time trying to figure out how to make things better.

There's a few times I asked my better half whether we should elope. There was this one time, I was really stubborn about it and insisted for that. But, I think that's the advantage having someone who are much older. He was really 100% against the idea and he kept on telling me, one day, we will have kids and how do we explain to them how we got married.

Sorry, I have no wedding pictures to share. My wedding was not like the wedding you see nowadays. I got married at my late grandmother's house and it was a really simple affair. My dad was not willing to be my wali until there was serious interference from the Pejabat Agama. At last, he gave in but did not want to attend the wedding....I know my dad regretted that till now but I understood why he reacted in such manner ~ I will always be his little girl forever and letting go is never easy (come to think of it, I don't think he has let go 100%, 50% maybe)

With all that obstacles, Alhamdulilah.....we have been married for 12 years. Of course not all the 12 years were joy rides. There were set backs here and there but we managed them pretty well. The first 5 years of marriage, financially it was difficult. With 3 small kids, I was still studying, trying to get ends meet was a real challenge. We did not get much help from anyone, we were really juggling to make sure all were being taken care off. From all the loans we have to pay, the rent, the groceries expenses to the payment for the cuties nurseries, I have made sacrifices to make sure my family get what they need. And that is why I am so pissed off when people think I have an easy life, with my parents helping and all....Tell me, have you ever need to sell kuih or nasi lemak so that you have some money towards the end of the month!! Nah...I don't think so!!!

I am very grateful for all the obstacles , I strongly this made our marriage stronger....

And come to think of it........It made me stronger.........

Happy Anniversary sayang, and hoping for many more anniversaries to come, sehidup semati remember?